In even the best of marriages, pressures can arise during the course of the day which by themselves might be only harmless aggravations but, allowed to develop into a pattern, can become doorways to destruction in relationships.

Perhaps the husband comes home from a hard day's work and the wife hasn't had time to prepare herself because of the busyness of her day. The husband opens the door expecting a beautiful woman with a big smile, arms ready to embrace him, surrounded by happy children. Instead, he finds a weary, grumpy and unkempt woman, still in the midst of her hard day, which will go on into the night, surrounded by kids who are tired and hungry, screaming and crying for attention.

Unfortunately, the husband, having worked hard all day, is not ready to cope with all of this and his wife is not ready to understand his needs. So, instead of having joy and peace and love between them, there is misunderstanding, impatience, harsh words and possibly even bitterness.

Maybe this sounds all too familiar. Those of us who are married face days like this. The important thing is not to let the evening end without dealing with these conflicts and resolving them: "When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath - your exasperation, your fury or indignation - last until the sun goes down" (Ephesians 4:26, AMP).

If there is impatience, insensitivity or disappointment, you be the first to say, "Let's pray about it and let God deal with our feelings." Or, "I'm sorry. I'll try to understand. Tell me about it." Take the first step toward open communication, and God will be your partner in establishing the kind of marriage that makes a home happy.

Father, I forgive my loved ones for not living up to my expectations. Make me the kind of spouse, parent or loved one that pleases You. Establish our home on the strong foundation of Your love. In Jesus' Name, Amen.