Conflict with others is an unavoidable fact of life. We may become angry, even contemplate revenge, but we can't afford to keep these feelings because they rob us of our peace and joy.

God understands natural anger but tells us we must deal with it by forgiving so that we will not react harmfully to others or ourselves. How can we forgive, especially if we feel we are right? Why must we forgive if they "don't deserve it?" A verse from the book of Colossians explains in part:

"...bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do" (Colossians 3:13, NKJV).

Forgiving isn't easy, but we know it's possible if God tells us to do it. It becomes easier when we realize that we don't have to feel forgiving, but must choose to forgive. When we take the verbal and physical actions in obedience to God, the feelings of forgiveness will eventually follow, with the help of the Holy Spirit. When you concentrate on Christ's example of forgiveness you realize you can't do less for others.

The peace that replaces the torment of unforgiveness is worth any difficulty you may have in obeying God by choosing to forgive.

Refuse your pride and self-will. Forget the wrong done to you and obey God now so that His peace will be yours through the night.

Dear God, I thank You that Jesus died for my sins. As He forgave me, so do I choose to forgive _____________ (name their name). I thank You for helping me in this act of obedience and for giving me Your peace tonight. In Jesus' Name, Amen.