As you tumble into bed tonight you may be fuming to yourself, "I've had it with so-and-so. Who needs them anyway?" This feeling about a co-worker or a neighbor is distressing enough, but if these thoughts concern a spouse, it could mean real trouble.

Let's look at the question, "Who needs them?". Our society encourages personal independence, both in and out of marriage, yet there is a balance to be achieved. For God also created us to need each other. To always "do your own thing" and never need anybody is a very lonely way to live.

Consider the "virtuous woman" in Proverbs, chapter 31. The passage told us that because of her, her husband had "no lack of gain." In other words, he needed her and she needed him! The challenge is, how to get in touch with what you need in others, especially your spouse.

The Apostle Paul teaches us to discipline our minds...focusing only on their good qualities, for in these assets are the very seeds of the riches God wants to give you through them. Paul says, "Fix your thoughts on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine, good things in others. Think about all you can praise God for and be glad about it" (Philippians 4:8, TLB).

Accept. Admire. Appreciate. Force yourself to find and dwell on their positive qualities. You may be amazed at what God has in store for you!

Heavenly Father, thank you for what You have given me in others. Help me to find the balance between independence and acknowledging healthy needs. May I never say, "Who needs you?" to someone made in Your image, for nourishing each other is a vital part of Your plan! In Jesus' Name, Amen.